I met Vinil in
Some years ago, I’d shared with Vinil a vague idea of wanting to transform lives through conversations. Beyond this, I really didn’t have much clue. But to my surprise, he took a genuine interest in the thought and the few conversations that I had with him about this really helped us.
One day, our discussion flowed to the subject of Gratitude, something he had only recently started practicing then. At that time, I didn’t know that a brief email exchange on this
Shilpi: You had mentioned to me that you recently started practicing GRATITUDE in your life. I am assuming that it wasn’t a part of your daily routine earlier. How did this shift come about?
Working in Bombay for the past 9 years, I was always of the opinion that if I was to be happy in life, I would have to keep growing in position and in terms of my finances. While I am still working on my personal economy, I am also focusing on my personal philosophy.
A close friend and associate who has achieved a lot once told me, “If you think you will be successful and that will make you happy, you are wrong. If you are happy, you might have better chance at success.” I thought about that for a long time. I read a lot of articles and books and one of them, by Tony Robbins, said that the number 1 factor that determines your success / happiness is your physical and mental state. He proceeded to talk about the vicious cycle of a low physical and mental state which leads to sub-standard efforts which leads to disappointing results which further deteriorates the physical and mental state. When I read more from him, I realised that he practices something called Gratitude.
Every morning he would do something called an Hour of Power or Thirty Minutes to Thrive or at least Fifteen Minutes to Fulfillment. So I started the same. I started with 15 minutes of reflection where I remind myself that I am blessed to have all that I have and for all that I am.
Shilpi: You know the one thing that really excited me was that there are people out there like your ‘close friend and associate’ who practice a certain way of life, not driven by materialistic benefits but focus on living a spiritually-full life, eventually leading to fulfillment in the secular aspects as well.
In fact, I also believe that our state of mind at each moment actually attracts and creates the life that we lead. The happier we truly are, the happier our life would become. But of course, reflecting on and correcting our mind moment-to-moment requires a great deal of effort. It’s not easy with so many other worries on our head.
Vinil: We often worry about our past and are hopeful about our future but do very little in the present and that was the case for me for a long time. I realised that the best way to have a good today is to start from the realisation that I am doing better than good and better than most. I start the day on a positive note and then from there on, it gets better. There are times when I get low but one reminder of gratitude is all that takes to put me back on track. I admit that I have a long way to go in terms of being a positive and happy person but it is definitely a start.
There are so many moments when we hear of something horrible that happened to someone we know or how someone we know is going through hard times and we hold our dear ones close and thank god for all that we have. It is a moment that makes us realise that we have so much and that life is beautiful. We can experience this everyday and in fact, starting my day with this this thought has definitely made me a happy person.
Shilpi: You know there’s a principle in Buddhism called ESHO FUNI. It means that our inner life (or a combination of mental and physical state) is absolutely one with our outer life (our homes, jobs, relationships, health etc). Inner life is like the body and the outer life is like shadow. When the body moves, the shadow cannot fail to move. Hence by transforming my inner life, I can change my outer life for good. And I’m sure gratitude helps in bringing a positive change to our state of mind.
Also, I came across this video and wanted to share it with you. Just made me further believe in the merits of not complaining and living a life of appreciation and inclusion.
Keep sharing your thoughts.